The invention relates to a solid particle heater exchanger, which comprises a cylindrical shell, wherein the top of the shell is provided with an upper connecting box for receiving particles, the middle part of the shell is provided with a heat exchange chamber, the bottom of the shell is provided with a lower connecting box for discharging the particles, a heat exchange pipe bundle is arranged in the heat exchange chamber, the heat exchange pipe bundle is provided with a fluid inlet and a fluid outlet on the shell, and a heat transfer fluid source is connected to the fluid inlet; a distributor is arranged between the upper boxing box and the heat exchange chamber; the distributor comprises a silk screen layer which is connected with a control device; the control device comprises a weightinductor and a vibrator, wherein the signal output end of the weight inductor is electrically connected with the controlled end of the vibrator, and the inducting end of the weight inductor and the output end of the vibrator are respectively connected with the silk screen layer. The invention also relates to a solid particle heat exchange system adopting the solid particle heat exchanger. According to the invention, sufficient heat transfer can be ensured, the particle discharge temperature can be controlled to meet the requirements, the discharging temperature of the heat transfer fluid can be ensured to be basically constant, and favorable energy-saving effect is achieved.