The invention provides network video based household control method and system and an intelligent household management system. The method comprises the steps of acquiring video monitoring data and generating a dynamic image; recognizing a position area of at least one configuration object in the dynamic image; acquiring the current working state of the at least one configuration object; defining at least one object display control corresponding to the at least one configuration object; configuring the image property of each object display control into the current working state of the configuration object corresponding to the object display control; displaying the dynamic image; overlapping the object display control corresponding to the configuration object in the position area of each configuration object and surrounding area adjacent to the position area. With the adoption of the method, the intelligent household remote monitoring display can be performed through the dynamic monitoring image.