The invention relates to the technical field of communication and information and specially relates to a remote control system and method of a wireless terminal, and a wireless terminal. A remote console is used for generating control instructions and packing the generated control instructions into an instruction set and storing and configuring the instruction set to a database; and access requests sent by the wireless terminal are obtained, and control signals are generated; encryption feature codes sent by the wireless terminal are obtained and analyzed, corresponding control instructions are matched from the database, according to a customization transmission protocol, the control instructions are sent to the wireless terminal, and the wireless terminal is used for sending the access requests to the remote console; control signals are obtained from the remote console and the encryption feature codes are generated and are sent to the console; and the instruction instructions sent from the customization transmission protocol by the remote console are received, the control instructions are analyzed, and corresponding setting is completed according to the control instructions. According to the invention, the problems of high interaction effectiveness and safety between the wireless terminal and the remote console are solved.