The invention relates to a user side power regulation and control method. A server is set at the aggregator of a power distribution network side, and a virtual controller is set at a user group so as to realize unified remote regulation and control of intelligent household of multiple subordinate home users. The final demand response control between the power grid side and the user side is achieved by state control of the household. The method comprises the steps that a power regulation and control model establishing and scheduling algorithm is performed on the user side. The subordinated model establishing characteristics are simply classified based on the intelligent household type, multiple intelligent household operation modes are obtained through division, and an energy consumption model generated by the household operation mode under different situations is given. The virtual controller quantitatively analyzes all the states of the household and divides weight for each user, performs polling and unified regulation and control and feeds the final regulation and control information back to the household.