The invention relates to a softening agent containing a honeysuckle extract, wherein the components comprise, by mass, 23-40% of chlorohydrocarbyl functional group silane, 3-6% of a ganoderma lucidum extract, 5-8% of plant essence, 11-15% of a fructus arctii extract, 2-3.5% of sodium alginate, 10-15% of a ginkgo extract, 3-6% of a wild chrysanthemum extract, and 40-61% of deionized water, the chlorohydrocarbyl functional group silane is chloropropyltrimethoxysilane, the fructus arctii extract is an imidazoline fructus arctii extract, and the wild chrysanthemum extract is calcium chloride. According to the present invention, the softening agent has advantages of good softening and fluffiness effect after disinfection and washing, low use concentration, no damage on fabrics, good stability, no damage on skin, low cost and no environment pollution, can strongly kill common harmful microorganisms, especially pathogenic bacteria, and can ensure that the fabric does not contain bacterial and has characteristics of good static electricity resistance, good re-mixing wetting property, no damage and no yellowing after the washing.