Different database deployments, or other data system deployments, may want to communicate with each other without sacrificing security or control. To this end, embodiments of the present disclosure may provide secure message exchange techniques for a source and/or target deployment. Configurable rule sets may be stored in the deployments; the rule sets may define what messages may be communicated between deployments. The deployments may implement a selective filtering scheme in one or more stages based on the rule sets to filter outgoing and/or incoming messages.