A trailer sway control system for a vehicle includes: a front left active suspension actuator; a front right active suspension actuator; a rear left active suspension actuator; a rear right active suspension actuator; and an actuator control module configured to: based on (a) a first hitch force at a trailer hitch in a longitudinal direction, (b) a second hitch force at the trailer hitch in a lateral direction, and (c) a third hitch force at the trailer hitch in a vertical direction, determine target vertical forces for the front left active suspension actuator, the front right active suspension actuator, the rear left active suspension actuator, and the rear right active suspension actuator, respectively; and selectively adjust the front left active suspension actuator, the front right active suspension actuator, the rear left active suspension actuator, and the rear right active suspension actuator based on the target vertical forces, respectively.