A device used to actuate hitch assemblies involved in connecting and disconnecting towing and towed vehicles. Embodiments include a rod having a distal, medial, and proximate segment as well as an extension rod having a distal, medial, and proximate segment. The rod and the extension rod may be joined in order to provide greater range for effective use of the device. The rod may be used either to push up or lift on a spring-loaded trailer hitch in order to connect or disconnect the vehicles.