Aspects of the subject disclosure may include, for example, a method in which a processing system generates a list of communications desired by a user, and determines an attentiveness level of the user with respect to equipment of the user currently in use, to determine whether the user is available to participate in a desired communication. The method also includes accessing equipment of a target party of the communication to determine an attentiveness level of the target party with respect to equipment of the target party, to determine whether the target party is available to participate in the communication. The method also includes generating a notice at the equipment of the user that the target party is available; and initiating the communication between the equipment of the user and the equipment of the target party. Other embodiments are disclosed.