A first router receives a targeted message that is unicast from a second router that is multiple network hops away from the first router. The first router establishes a transport layer connection between the first router and the second router in response to the targeted message. The first router then establishes a session over the transport layer connection. The session operates according to a border gateway protocol (BGP). In some cases, the targeted message includes information such as an IP address of the first router, a transport layer parameter, an ASN associated with the second router, and an identifier of the routing protocol associated with the second router. A frequency of targeted messages exchanged by the first and second routers is reduced in response to a duration of the session increasing and turned off if the duration exceeds a threshold duration.