The system described herein may track references to a shared object by concurrently executing threads using a reference tracking data structure that includes an owner field and an array of byte-addressable per-thread entries, each including a per-thread reference counter and a per-thread counter lock. Slotted threads assigned to a given array entry may increment or decrement the per-thread reference counter in that entry in response to referencing or dereferencing the shared object. Unslotted threads may increment or decrement a shared unslotted reference counter. A thread may update the data structure and/or examine it to determine whether the number of references to the shared object is zero or non-zero using a blocking-optimistic or a non-blocking mechanism. A checking thread may acquire ownership of the data structure, obtain an instantaneous snapshot of all counters, and return a value indicating whether the number of references to the shared object is zero or non-zero.