An apparatus for controlling lifespan of interaction requests includes a processor and a memory, the memory storing instructions that when executed by the processor cause the processor to detect when an interaction request is being initiated for send from a communications appliance, server, or system, activate an interface on the appliance, server, or system for configuring a time to live (TTL) for the interaction request, cause, via the configuration, the interaction request to expire if not answered within the TTL life span, and cause, via the configuration, the TTL constraint applied to the interaction request to be lifted if the interaction is answered within the TTL life span.