An aircraft control apparatus, control system, and control method are disclosed. A control apparatus includes: a first control rod configured to have a movement in a first movement direction controlling a motion of an aircraft in a first motion direction, wherein after an external force on the first control rod in the first movement direction is removed, the first control rod automatically returns to a preset position in the first movement direction; wherein the preset position which the first control rod automatically returns to corresponds to the aircraft in the first motion direction maintaining a state of flight; wherein the maintaining state of flight depends on control signals received by the aircraft generated resulting from changes in the external force applied to the control rod in the first movement direction and state signals measured by state measurement sensors carried by the aircraft.