A handle for controlling a lock of a vehicle door has a connecting structure for connection to the door; a control lever hinged to the connecting structure and gripped by a user; and a control device for setting only the one lock to a safety-off mode; the handle having a respective electric aerial, which is carried by the lever, detects an identification code carried by the user, and is connected to the control device to supply the control device with an enabling signal as the user approaches the vehicle.