The invention discloses an optimized clutch control method based on a wet clutch, belonging to the technical field of automobile transmissions. The optimized clutch control method comprises the steps of: carrying out meshing control optimization and release control optimization for a plurality times to obtain upper limit pressure values to be optimized and lower limit pressure values to be optimized, carrying out summation respectively, averaging to obtain a final optimized upper limit pressure value and a final optimized lower limit pressure value, and storing in an EEPROM (Electrically Erasable Programmable Read-Only Memory) space of a transmission control unit (TCU) to realize optimized clutch control. In the invention, dynamic factors such as clutch abrasion, temperature influences and the like are comprehensively considered so as to ensure that the control of the critical point of the clutch on beginning to transmit the torque of an engine is always maintained in an optimal state.