The present invention provides a vehicle charging control apparatus and method, and a vehicle charging system. The vehicle charging control apparatus includes: a communicator transmitting and receiving a signal to and from a parking lot control system, which is in a parking lot including charging slots and non-charging slots, and a user terminal; a remote parking controller activating an automaticmoving and parking function of a vehicle according to the signal received from the user terminal when the vehicle is in a non-charging slot of the parking lot, receiving charging slot information from the parking lot control system when a charging slot among the charging slots is empty, and controlling the vehicle to move and park based on the empty charging slot; and a charging controller controlling wireless charging of the vehicle when the vehicle moves to park in the charging slot.